You and your significant other made the decision, you got married because you both are in love and are ready to spend the rest of your life together. Although everything should be great in any marriage, it is important to admit that divorce rate have significantly raised these days; this means that not every marriage is destined for success, but this does not necessarily indicate yours should fail. So, I have done some interesting research, and I have decided to base this post on three essential factors that most of the times make a dreamed marriage go straight to failure, I also included some ideas for you to consider in order to keep your marriage strong.
Lack of communication
A main issue in marriages is lacking of communication, ineffective ways to communicate make it difficult for couples to create a strong link of communication and thus, they probably have to deal with incompatibility in conflict resolution. Oftentimes, lack of communication in marriages come from people’s backgrounds; while some people grew up in families that are used to shout as their way to solve problems, there are other who grew up in households where they just ignore the matter and remain in silence. So, if the married couple come from any of these two different scenarios, then communication will be something they really need to work on since resolving problems or even communicating their feelings effectively will be a complete challenge for each of them.
You may hear it frequently, communication is the foundation of every relationship; so how can you expect your marriage to have positive changes if you and your spouse are not able to communicate at all? Find ways to improve your marriage’s communicational skills, you can try to set aside a time once a week where you both can have a real catch- up session; spending time talking about random issues and important matters (work, family, friend) can be an excellent strategy to help you and your partner having a better communication. The best part of this is that you do not need to wait until you are in critical circumstances, order a pizza and make yourself comfortable in your lovely home and just let topics come up.
Lack of interest
A big reason why marriages fail lays on the lack of care or interest, that individuals who marry used to feel at the beginning of their relationship. As you might know it, one of the first factors that influences a relationship is the physical attraction that two people can experiment; and once the couple gets married, certain things start changing like gaining weight or hair lost. Going a little bit further, losing interest in your marriage also leads to lack of care and I am not talking about only physical appearance, but lack of attention about your partner’s passions or feelings; this is a serious matter you need to always pat attention to, remember that once you stop seeing all of those things you love about your significant other, you are basically allowing boredom or resentment take place in your marriage.
A good idea to manage this important issue can be striving to be genuinely interested in everything that your soulmate is engrossed in, support each other and try to always be an attentive partner that contributes to pour healthy energy that strengthen your marriage.
Lack of intimacy
It is simple, not having great sex will have a negative impact in your marriage and that’s for sure. As your relationship move into longer- term, you will need to consider all of the possible ways to keep sex exciting as well as how to stay on same page, when it comes to your sexual proclivities. I have already mentioned, love is the foundation of an awesome marriage but there are other good things that can make your marriage sparkling, and among them great intimacy is essential; but let’s highlight that when I refer to intimacy, I am not necessarily limiting it to sex, lust or naughty thoughts of your significant other. It is also about that key physical, mental and emotional connection you should have with your partner; when you get to connect these three important factors, you create a strong and healthy attachment with your spouse.
In order to make your marriage’s intimacy at its very best, strive to naturally create opportunities that allow you and your husband/ wide to enjoy of intimate moments; set a day of the week that best suits both of your schedules, find some scent candles, play romantic music and arrange a dinner where you and your soulmate cook your favorite meals. It is about enhancing those details that already made you come together as a couple, forget about technology, work problems or anything and just give yourselves the chance to keep your intimacy on track.